Tuesday, 21 May 2013

Saying Goodbye to a Friend: Ruth Doreen Bailes


My Jesus walks beside me death is defeated by His name


Words paint pictures
Wrestling on a page.
My Jesus walks beside me 
Death is defeated by His name.

Thoughts seem to bubble
Theology unfolds.
My Jesus walks beside me
     Death is defeated by His name.       

Tears tell of sorrow
Truth wrapped up in pain.
My Jesus walks beside me
Death is defeated by His name.

Memories are history
Moments set in time.
My Jesus walks beside me
Death is defeated by His name.  

Eternity lasts forever
Eventualities arise.
My Jesus walks beside me
Death is defeated by His name.

Pain is for a moment
Perhaps it's just as well.
My Jesus walks beside me
Death is defeated by His name.

Soon we will be together
Side by side again.
My Jesus walks beside me
Death is defeated by His name.

In memory of Ruth
copyright Revdjo 21/5/2013

 Ruth Doreen Bailes (7/11/29-28/4/13)

I have known Ruth since I was a teenager but it was not until the last ten years, or so, that I really got to know her well. She was one of my most trusted friends. Last year she made the journey from Stroud to Burton on the train to see me, not many 82 year-old ladies would attempt that! On learning of her sudden death my immediate reaction was at least she didn't suffer that much and stayed in her own home, continuing to do the Lord's work right up until the last minute. I was surprised by the depth of my feelings just prior to her funeral as it dawned on me just how good a friend she was and how much I would miss her. God seemed to remind me of that in the voice of Elizabeth, who I don't know very well, as she sat next to me with the words, 'Can I sit next to you and be your friend.' Just in case I needed any more reinforcement, a reminder from God via Ruth's hymn choice, What a friend we have in Jesus. 

Ruth was forever the student of the Gospel and forever the teacher. She had taught both secondary and infant school children in her day. Her zeal for the doing God's work amazed me. If you want to have a look it can be found here: 


I will miss my praying friend and her humorous ways; it always took Ruth an age to make the tea and offer you a biscuit that you weren't allowed to take a bite of until she had said grace. At her funeral I was struck by the last verses of the hymns she chose. I have listed them in order bellow. Ruth had no doubt she was going to meet her Lord. Even after her death she continues to remind firstly, where she was going and secondly, for us to take our burdens and prayers to God.  The God who continues to walk with us in the valleys when we are sad as much as he walks with us when we are feeling joyful and on top of the world.

Great things He hath taught us, 
great things He hath done,
and great our rejoicing through Jesus the Son:
but purer and higher and greater will be
our wonder, our worship, when Jesus we see!

To God be the glory! by F J Crosby and W H Doane  

 When I stand in glory
I will see your face.
And there I'll serve my King forever,
on that Holy Place

There is a Redeemer by Keith Green

Are we weak and heavy-laden,
cumbered with a load of care?
Precious Saviour, still our refuge,
take it to the Lord in prayer!
In His arms He'll take and shield thee,
thou wilt find a solace there.

What a Friend we have in Jesus by J M Scriven 

Green pastures are before me,
which I have not seen;
bright skies will soon be o'er me,
where darkness clouds have been;
my hope I cannot measure,
my path to life is free;
My Saviour has my treasure,
and He will walk with me.

In Heavenly Love Abiding by A L Waring